5 Easy tips for a guilt free Easter

Enjoy Easter without food guilt

Easter is approaching and with all the excitement comes a lot of treats such as hot cross buns, Easter lunches and easter eggs. Eventhough these treats can be fun, overindulging can often leave us feeling uncomfortable,bloated, cravings and also just feelings of guilt and sometimes shame.

I would rather enjoy Easter and make it about fun, family and taking time off instead of feelings of guilt and regrets. Guilt and regret form overindulging or binging on Easter treat overshadows the amazing time spent connecting with family and friends and that’s the main point of the Easter break.

My clients often struggle over festive seasons and I usually help them make little changes so that they can enjoy their holidays! Here are my five tips to help you enjoy Easter without the guilt, unnecessary weight gain or Easter binges.

1. Start your day the right way

Drink a large glass of water when waking up and eat a healthy breakfast packed with protein. High protein breakfasts will give you energy and keep your insulin levels stable reducing cravings. A nourishing big breakfast will help keep you full and it will also help you make better decisions when you are not coming from a place of hunger and cravings.

2. Indulge mindfully

Don’t deny yourself a hot cross bun or chocolates, make sure that you enjoy your treats mindfully and savoring every bite.  This will help you feel less deprived an keep binges at bay. We often end up overeating when you feel deprived and we feel like we “shouldn’t” have certain foods.

3. Keep active.

Keeping active releases endorphins, say bye to cravings!

Make this time fun, spend time in nature, go on Easter egg hunts with the children, play games like finding the Easter Bunny enjoy the fresh air. The activity will keep you energized and all distract you from all the food. Exercise releases endorphins which will improve your mood and reduce cravings!

4. Freeze excess chocolate.

IF you find yourself inundated with chocolates put them in the freezer and then you can ration them out throughout the weeks after Easter. You can use them in recipes like using it as chocolate chips or melting it down to make chocolate sauce.

5. Keep healthy snacks on standby

Keep healthy options available making nice platters with fresh vegetable sticks and a homemade dip. Make sure you have loads of snacks ready to go so you don’t find yourself hungry (tip: why not try and revamp your favorite Easter recipe using healthier ingredients.

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Lavender essential oil, the most versatile of all oils!

Lavender has so many health benefits, it’s an analgesic, anti-bacterial, anti fungal, anti-infections, anti-inflammatory and so many more. However, it’s mostly know for its calming properties as studies have suggested that it has sedative and mood stabiliser properties .

Lavender and the body

Lavender has a cool and dry energy and therefore acts against body heat derived from inflammation, pain and feelings of restlessness. It also has a cooling effects on the liver, alleviating headaches, constipation and the quality of sleep. Proper sleep can result in weight loss, reduces stress levels and has a significant impact on digestion. Lavender is also an antiseptic and can help with skin irritations, sunburn and soothing red spots on the skin. Lavender is exceptionally gentle and can be added to the skin undiluted in some cases.

Headache: Add two drops of lavender to 5 drops of carrier oil and smooth into the temples, neck and hairline

Lavender and the mind.

Lavender oil can help release pent up energy and help relieve irritation and frustration. It has been know as a “rescue remedy” and can calm overpowering emotions that can cause overwhelm. It can also help with shyness and embarrassment when we feel the fear of rejection.

Meditation helps to calm down the nervous system which helps the body heal.

Lavender and the soul.

Lavender helps to energise the throat chakra (Vishuddha) which helps us communicate clearly, honestly and with confidence. the calming effect of lavender oil is a brilliant accessory for meditation and mindfulness.

The Throat Chakra’s purpose is communication and self expression

Throat Chakra : Add one drop of lavender to a your throat area and repeat the affirmation “I speak my truth with confidence”

Lavender is also known to soothe the third eye chakra ( Ajna ) especially when experiencing headahes, difficulty concentrating and intuitive blocks.

The Third eye’s chakra’s purpose is Intuition and the ability to think and make decisions.

Third Eye Chakra : Add one drop of lavender to the middle of your forehead repeat the affirmation “I’m guided by my intuition and trust it fully”

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Strawberry Smoothie Bowl

This smoothie bowl packs a real protein punch without adding protein powders! All the ingredients are Wholefood based and this is just super delicious!


  • 1/2 banana (frozen)
  • 4 strawberries
  • 1/4 cup milk of choice ( I used coconut milk)
  • 1 Tsp Macca Powder
  • 1/2 Tsp organic cocoa powder (optional)
  • 2 Tsp descecrated coconut
  • 2 Tbs white chia seeds
  • 1 Tsp sunflower seeds (plus extra for decoration)
  • 1 Tsp pepitas (plus extra for decoration)
  • Sprinkle black chia seeds for decoration


  1. Place all ingredients in a blender and blend untill smooth.
  2. Scoop into a serving bowl.
  3. Decorate with the sunflower seeds, pepitas and black chia seeds.
  4. Enjoy.


You can add a bit more liquid if the consistency is too thick.

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How gut health effects stress and sleep

Gut Health, Stress and sleep

I don’t know about you but when I ‘m stressed I immediately feel like my stomach has turned into a solid ball of tension, and when I’m nervous I feel butterflies in my stomach. The reason for this is because the gut and the brain are closely related and in constant communication. The very thought of your moms home cooked meals can trigger digestive juices in the stomach (gastric juices) and make you ravenous within minutes. Conversely, any distresses in the gut and stomach can cause anxiety, stress and depression according to Anthony L. Komaroff (Editor in Chief, Harvard Health Letter)

According to the book Neuroscience , more neurons (cells that transmit nerve impulses) are said to reside in the human gut than in the entire spinal cord,which makes the gut and digestive system a rather sensitive system. This is the reason why there is such a big hype about gut health.

When the gut is unhappy, we sometimes experience physical pain or symptoms such as stomach aches, gas, bloating, heartburn and diarrhea we also experience non gut related symptoms such as stress, lack of sleep ,fatigue,  skin problems, infections and the list goes on.

My interest in particular has been how stress, sleep and digestive health are all related so here’s how an unhealthy gut affects stress and sleep in particular.

How the gut affects stress

How the gut affects stress
Gut Health and Stress

Our gut produces roughly 90% of the body’s serotonin, our bodies happy hormones. Serotonin regulates the secretion of the stress hormone Cortisol. Scientific studies done on mice have shown that serotonin levels are lower in mice with less healthy gut bacteria. If there is less serotonin in the system, inflammation increases and Cortisol increases. Too much cortisol can interfere with sleep levels and can lead anxiety, stress and depression

High levels of cortisol takes the blood to the limbs giving you the energy to run away from danger but this takes the energy away from the gut, lowering digestive enzymes that break down food as well as the absorption of healthy vitamins and minerals. In conclusion, there is therefore a very delicate relationship between the gut and stress levels and if we start paying attention to this balance we will be able to manage both stress and gut health.

How the gut affects Sleep

How the gut affects Sleep
Gut health and sleep

An unhappy gut manifests in stomach aches, gas, bloating, and nausea which can make it very difficult to sleep. Good quality sleep is very important in managing stress levels and again we have just learnt how the stress hormone cortisol causes additional stress on the digestive system.

Poor sleep, on the other hand, increases the appetite and especially cravings for junk food, the more junk food we eat, the more stress is placed on the digestive system . Junk food is laden with artificial substances that take the place of healthy vitamins and minerals that the body requires to function. The presence of these preservatives and flavoring agents cause inflammation in the gut and this again raises cortisol levels, which acts as an anti-inflammatory. However, if the gut is constantly inflamed by the continuous consumption of processed food, then cortisol levels remains high preventing the body from producing melatonin ( the sleep hormone) , thus keeping us from getting a restful night’s sleep.   Needless to say, there is another delicate balance between the gut and sleep.

How to keep the gut healthy.

  1. Eat a whole food diet rich in anti inflammatory foods, such as green leafy vegetables, bok choy , celery, beets, blueberries and pineapple.
  2. Manage your stress levels.
  3. Get more quality sleep.
  4. Eat foods rich in fiber.
  5. Drink loads of fresh water.

To Summarize, there is a delicate balance between the gut, stress and sleep. If one of these are out of balance the other two will start to feel strain. If you can just start taking action in correcting one of these areas, you will see drastic changes in your health and energy levels.

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Is it Time for a cleanse?

Toxic chemicals abound in the world today – they easily find their way into our body through the air we breathe, the food we eat, and the water we drink. We also ingest foreign chemicals when taking medicinal or illicit drugs, or when using alcohol or tobacco.

Although the body is designed to be self-cleaning and to excrete these toxins, it cannot always handle the overload present in today’s environment. Chemicals not excreted accumulate in our fat cells and cell membranes become internal toxins.

When the body is under stress, it releases those toxic waste products from the fat to circulate in the bloodstream. These toxins can damage the protective intestinal lining, literally corroding the body from the inside out; making it a less effective filter for the good nutrients we might be bringing in. The more it is damaged, the less effectively it absorbs nutrients, and the more toxins pass into the blood and lymph systems. This is why elimination is so important during a cleanse! We aim to eliminate toxins from the body to avoid toxic overload.

What Are Symptoms Of Toxic Overload?

• headaches

• nausea

• constipation

• diarrhea

• belly bloat

• painful gas

• frequent belching

• joint and muscle aches

• muscle tension

• soreness or cramps

To avoid these symptoms and effectively reset the body it is important to keep all of the body’s channels of elimination open and functioning well. A number of cleansing activities are recommended in this cleanse, beyond changing your diet. The time and loving attention you devote to these activities for your body during your cleanse will be richly rewarded with improved health.

It is believed by nutritionally oriented health care practitioners that specific food allergies are related to metabolic toxicity. Symptoms from apparent food allergies may result from reduced enzyme concentrations and from intestinal bacterial endotoxins. One classic approach to eliminating or minimizing symptoms associated with food allergies is using a hypo-allergenic diet or elimination diet (which is the approach we’ll be using in this cleanse.)

Foods that most commonly cause symptoms of a food allergy or toxicity are gluten containing grains, dairy products, eggs, soy, caffeine, yeast, sugar (and it’s many forms), dried fruits, citrus fruits and sometimes poor food combining. Avoidance of these foods has lead to relief of symptoms in many individuals. By reintroducing these foods back into the diet individually, one is able to see clearly how their body reacts to that food.

This gentle, yet effective approach is designed to support the liver’s detoxification pathways and to improve intestinal health so that the body can clear out excess toxins and operate at it’s highest potential. It delivers an all access pass to boundless reserves of energy you didn’t know you had. You’ll find that every part of your body works better simply by “switching on” your metabolism and body’s natural healing abilities.

I have had a lot of people tell me how exhausted they are after the festive season!! Too many late nights, excess sugar, too much alcohol! All this leads to our bodies being drained from trying to deal with all the excess food and drinks adding stress and inflammation to the digestive system.

That’s why I have just launched my new years cleanse!! Starting 18 January we will delve into a 3-week reset. Now if you are thinking lemon water or weird detox soups, you know that’s not my vibe! I’m all into healthy options and creating habits that will last!!

What’s included 

  • A full 3-week program
  • Personalised Coaching
  • Healthy recipes 
  • Mindfulness and Meditations to help you get back into healthy habits
  • Detox yoga 

What we’ll learn

Break free from unhealthy eating habits while improving digestion and gaining energy!!! 

Break free from guilt from emotional eating

Break free from emotional eating

Experiencing guilt from Emotional Eating?

You’ve been having a rough month. You tell yourself “I’ll get through it”. But it sucks. Then a super rough day hits you and drains you of all your energy, while driving home, the craving for pizza sets in.

Now while pizza, in moderation, isn’t the worst thing for you, you just had to have a pizza, like the entire pizza. So you find yourself at the pizza place.

you tell yourself “I haven’t had a “cheat” day in forever” , “Its ok to splurge every now and then

You eye out the menu and your mouth just starts to water. Thin Crust … Bacon .. BBQ Sauce Pizza. That sounds amazing..

Your brain tells you “This will make you feel better”

And before you know it you are three quarters in and you start feeling guilt, but you keep eating because it’s making you feel better and besides “I’ve cheated already, I might as well get it out of my system, tomorrow I will be back on track”

Regret and guilt starts setting in and you think to yourself “Please for the love of God, somebody tell me how to stop. How do I stop feeling ashamed? How do I put away that guilt?”

Guilt can be very debilitating

The feeling of guilt is a compounded feeling to to what you are already experiencing. It is an emotional response that causes stress in the body which leads to poor digestion, indigestion and many health issues. I have asked some leading experts in the health and fitness industry on their advise on how to break free from guilt from emotional eating. I consulted with Health and fitness coaches, Minimalist Experts and nutrition and life coaches and they all shared their top answers on how to get you back up again when you stumble.

Amy Wotherspoon

As personal trainers and online coaches, we have a lot of experience with our clients admitting to emotional eating, or eating due to stress, guilt and/or boredom. It’s obvious that if you’re working towards weight loss goals, how this kind of behavior has the potential to limit your success. That’s why we encourage our clients to try to shift their focus from the binge eating incident to get back on track towards their goals right away. If you’ve given in to a moment of weakness, we don’t judge – we simply suggest you follow these steps afterwards:

  1. Don’t beat yourself up about it, it happens to everyone. But by allowing your mindset to enter a negative feedback loop, you’re only more likely to continue to make the same mistakes. If you admit that you messed up, but don’t hold a grudge, you’ll instill the mindset that it’s what happens over the long term that counts. We understand this is easier said than done, but practice makes perfect.
  2. Get back onto your meal plan the very next meal. Forget the whole, “my diet starts fresh tomorrow/on Monday/next week” – we want to see you back on track the same day. This means spending the rest of the day opting for high protein, low carb/sugar foods for the rest of the day to try to balance out your macronutrients and not making a bad situation worse.
  3. Put those calories to good use and be sure to hit the gym – hard. Rather than beat yourself up about it, you’ll feel better if you commit to an extra round of HIIT or cardio that week. This will allow some of those empty calories to be used as fuel and not set you back as far.

Amy is a personal trainer and an online coach you can find more information on her website and Instagram

Lucy Call

Whew, what a loaded topic! I have felt out of control with my eating and the unstoppable guilt and shame over it. After years of healing, I realized that emotional eating is not inherently bad; in fact, we are just trying to feel better in a way that has usually worked for us. The guilt over emotional eating is worse than the actual physical or emotional discomfort during the act or what may have caused it. The first step to getting over the guilt of emotional eating is to appreciate the fact that your body is simply sending you a message. I have found the following steps to be imperative in creating lasting change around emotional eating.

Are you simply eating enough throughout your day? If you are restricting your eating (physically, mentally, or both), your body will automatically start to override your willpower to get the fuel it needs to thrive. So work with your body! It is a beautiful being that needs food to function and allow you to live your passions. Don’t feel guilty for wanting food. Trust that you and your body know what will serve it best.

Investigate the underlying problem: how does your plate reflect what is going on in your life? This is so important to do in order to create long-lasting change. Figuring out why the emotional eating is happening in the first place is how to stop it before it starts. So allow yourself to eat what you want, and promise to show up for your future self by learning what you are truly craving. If it is comfort, rest, pleasure, or anything else, ask yourself what you can do outside of food to fulfill boost that area of your life.

Get out of the guilt routine and get into your body! I cannot stress this enough. Take a walk. Jump around. Practice EFT (Google it and it will change your life). When you are more connected to your body overall, the easier it is to tap into your hunger cues and determine physical cravings from emotional ones.

Lucy is a health coach who heals women’s relationship with body image and food. She teaches individuals to cultivate healthy habits, to tap into the flow of abundance, and feel amazing in their bodies and lives every single day. Lucy studies nutrition at college, where she is a part of the Campus Kitchens Project, an organization that fights food waste and hunger at the same time. You can find Lucy at any time cooking large meals with her family, singing at open mics, making green smoothies, biking by the James River, or playing with her cat, Murphy. You can find her on her website or Instagram

Ashlee Fazio

Guilt from emotional eating

Ashlee Fazio

The most powerful way to BREAK through the cage of guilt that surrounds emotional eating is to get in tune with ourselves! It is as simple (and as complicated) as that. The greatest part of my journey towards minimalism is the fact that I have gotten more in tune with myself: body, mind, and soul. Here are 3 ways that embracing simplicity in your life can help you get in tune with yourself to overcome emotional eating and stop feeling guilty now!

-With less distractions in our lives, it is much easier to listen to what our bodies are telling us. LISTENING TO YOUR BODY is going to change your relationship to food dramatically.

-Focusing more on utilizing simple ingredients in our cooking will make it more likely that the food we eat (even if we’re eating just because of stress, binge eating, etc.) will give us ENERGY and make us feel alive ALIVE rather than making us TIRED and making us feel GUILTY.

-Living a more minimalist life will give you more time and more money. More time to get in tune with yourself, more money to take care of yourself, less chances to feel guilty about binge eating a whole box of oreos.

Ashlee Fazio is a minimalist expert who shares the life-changing benefits of embracing a simple life. She shares advice, stories, and lessons from her journey on her blog at destinydweller.com as well as on the Tiny Steps Toward Minimalism Facebook community. Feel like minimalism can help you get closer to the life that you want? Shoot her a message here to set up a FREE session and explore this!

Coach Shelly

As a Life and Wellness Coach for many years I have helped numerous clients tackle their emotional eating issues. This can be a confusing topic as many relate it to an eating disorder. The truth of the matter is, they are indeed very different. Emotional eating is something we typically do in the moment. The moment of sadness, loneliness, stress, worry, confusion, boredom, etc and yes, even joy. As humans we live through our emotions daily so, for many this can be very difficult to control. When we eat to fill a “void” we may be experiencing, we usually reach for those so called “comfort foods”. Foods that are high sugar, high fat, and processed. Why do we do this? Well, it starts in our brains. Our brains are always looking for those endorphins that bring us “comfort” or “pleasure”, that high so to speak. These foods can eventually destroy our health both mentally and physically.

After we indulge in these comfort foods, the most crucial emotion comes to the surface. That emotion is GUILT. We soon feel guilty for eating or binging. We mentally beat ourselves up for doing so and in return, we feel sad, empty, and shameful. Well, that’s how the vicious cycle begins and can continue unless you get the proper help and guidance you need. Guilt is one of the hardest things to deal with because that guilty feeling or emotion is felt after you have done something you know is “wrong”. We punish ourselves mentally and then the cycle starts all over again. In closing, let me say that acknowledgement is power! Learning to acknowledge what is happening and creating a new way of dealing with it, can help you regain your power and your health.

Coach Shelley is a life and wellness coach and you can find out more of on her Facebook page

Laurence Annez Health & Wellness

Laurence Annez, guilt from emotional eating
Laurence Annez

Lose the restrictions:

After analyzing my 2 year path of emotional and disordered eating, I realized that what triggered my own disordered eating patterns was being diagnosed with food sensitivities. Of course there were underlying emotional issues that were also linked but this seemed to be the trigger. This deprivation had often left me feeling isolated and left out. And the unresolved emotional issues manifested through this deprivation. I developed an unhealthy relationship with food, labelling foods as “good” or “bad” and this is when my orthorexia hit full throttle. When you start to make too many restrictions you end up wanting those off limit foods more than ever before, because they are forbidden. We always want what we can’t have, don’t we?
Every time I would binge, on “good” or “bad” foods, I immediately started making up new rules and restricting my eating choices for the next day. I would feel terrible and wallow in my misery until night, and the next day it would start all over again.
It was only when I started to loosen up around food and let my rules go, that things started to change.
Now, apart from my food sensitivities, I eat what I want when I want and I feel less tempted to binge. When you no longer view foods “off limits” it becomes easier to resist. You may not even want it at all anymore.
I choose to nourish myself with healthy whole foods that my body responds well to because I want to look and feel my best. And if I want a piece of that cake, I’ll have it, and then get on with my life.
Try loosening up around food and letting go of restrictions and see how your relationship with food starts to shift.


Journaling has been a game changer for me. I journal everyday now as a morning and night routine. I write down my feelings, thoughts, how my day went, my goals, gratitude, things I love about myself, etc. This has helped me vocalize my feelings and appreciate what I am and what I have.
Journaling is a great way to express yourself, as emotional eaters are often very secretive and keep things to themselves. This also helps to identify some underlying causes of your emotional eating patterns.
Focus on positive things and practice self love by listing all the great things about yourself.
Buy yourself a nice journal and make a routine of regularly expressing any thoughts that come up. If there is negativity try to replace it with something positive. Write down 5 things you are grateful for, 5 things you love about yourself, and 5 goals that you want to accomplish. And do it everyday.


I resisted seeing a therapist for so long but it was also something that I wanted and needed to do for years and years. Of course my unresolved emotional issues resurfaced through food and emotional eating. After 2 years I decided enough was enough. I called a therapist who was specialized in emotional eating disorders and started talking to her regularly. This was the first time I ever talked about my issues openly and without restraint. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my chest, as I finally had the courage to speak my truth, openly and fully.
A counsellor or therapist can help you by visiting the issues that you have concealed and talking about them out loud. They can help you voice your concerns and find solutions to them. Finding support is a critical step in healing. There is no shame in reaching out for help, in fact it is a courageous act. Humans tend to think that in order to be strong, they need to do everything by themselves but this is far from the truth. A counsellor knows what you are going through and can help you find relief by resolving the underlying root cause of your emotional eating and guiding you every step of the way. There is always support and there is always help.

Laurence is a certified holistic nutritionist based in Vancouver, Canada. She helps her clients from all over the world reach their health goals, rediscover the joys of food, and how to properly fuel their bodies to feel their very best. You can find more on Laurence’s journey on her website , Facebook and Instagram

Fabiana Simões

Using food for comfort, to feel better, and to cope with emotions we’re not ready to tackle isn’t a problem on its own. It’s a natural coping mechanism that almost all of us use at one point or another. Emotional eating turns into a problem when we make it a habit. That’s what gets us stuck because it basically stops us from discovering other ways to find comfort and connection.

When emotional eating becomes a habit, it runs on autopilot. That’s why your first step needs to be mindfulness of your triggers! One of my favorite ways to bring some attention to your feelings is the HALT technique. HALT stands for Hungry, Angry/Anxious, Lonely, and Tired. Whenever you feel the compulsion to eat, pause for a minute, and ask yourself where in HALT you stand.

There are two big wins in this: 1) interrupting the automated emotional eating cycle, and 2) noticing and naming your feelings (even if you’re not quite ready to face them right away). Give this a try and get to know your emotions a little better! That’s step one in your journey to making peace with food!

Fabiana Simões is a Health Coach helping professional ladies take charge of their health and eating. Her passion is seeing driven women break free from diets, empowered by foods, and energized to chase their goals. You can find out more on her website

Tanessa Shears

We are 100% responsible for how we feel because all of our feelings are created by the thoughts we choose to think. Learning that a simple sentence in our brain can change the way we feel about ourselves, our circumstances and how or what we choose to eat removes the option of becoming a victim to food. Take a moment – what were the sentences running through your mind when you last experienced food guilt?

All of our feelings are created by the thoughts we choose to think. Learning that a simple sentence in our brain can change the way we feel about ourselves, our circumstances and how or what we choose to eat removes the option of becoming a victim to food. Take a moment – what were the sentences running through your mind when you last experienced food guilt?

This is how you choose to take back control. You choose a different thought. Yes, you might have been overwhelmed and ate a box of cookies, and yes you might have felt devastated, angry or embarrassed and ate until you felt nauseous. The suffering that comes after is optional. What might a better thought be that will SERVE you in actually changing your behavior?

Try these on, and see how they feel: “I am capable of making a different choice next time.” “I have a body that needs my attention.” “I can handle this.” “I am stronger than my cravings.” These generate feelings of motivation, positivity and encouragement. Refuse to suffer, choose a better thought and take control of the feelings that come with it.

Tanessa is a weight loss coach for working professional women. She teaches women the tools & strategies to reach their natural weight, feel confident in their bodies and stop overeating – permanently. You can find more information on her website or you can join her community

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Emotional eating: How to stop using food to numb your feelings

The cellphone charger performs a very important function. It charges your phone so it can have power so you can be in contact with your loved ones and to check your latest Facebook feeds. Without the charger your phone will run out of battery life and we will be lost. This is the only function of the phone charger.

Food is essential for our bodies to function, without it our bodies will shut down

Now I’m sure you are wondering what this has to do with emotional eating. Just bear with me and I will explain.

Food provides your body with nutrients not comfort

Like the phone charger food provides our bodies with the essential nutrients for our body to function. It provides us with energy so that our organs can perform their essential functions and keep us alive. Without food our bodies will shut down. This is foods only function.

The phone charger does not provide your phone with hugs, or cumfort and it certainly does not relieve its stress stress levels. The same counts for food. Food is only there to nourish your body it does not take away what you are feeling.

It might distract you for a couple of minutes but it does not take away your feelings.

Avoiding emotions by eating comfort food

Using comfort food to avoid something else

If you are eating when you are not physically hungry, you are using food to avoid something else. Maybe it’s stress, loneliness, boredom. The problem with this distraction is that it’s only a distraction.

Once you have eaten your “go to” comfort food, the issue will still be there. And if you are anything like me, you add guilt to the pity party too. So now you have guild and your original problem to deal with.

Next time you are craving something specific and your body is not physically hungry take the following steps to try and avoid the regretful avoidance technique.

  • Take note when this is happening.

The best way to identify this is to write down when you start the craving. If you have already reached for your comfort ice cream then just document when the urge to eat without hunger came on and when you acted on it. Try and write down the inner dialogue going on in your head. You will probably be having a good battle between your mind and will.

  • Try to identify what you are trying to avoid

Once you are aware of when this is happening try and figure out what you are trying to avoid.

  • Process your feeling

If you have identified this feeling try and sit with it. Do nothing else just sit and process. It takes about 90 seconds for a feeling to pass and you will find that the craving has gone along with it.

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